We now move on to the first aspect of our second priority: that we live in relationship to each other in the church through the very love of God Himself. This is examined in terms of the importance of accepting one another just as we are, thereby providing the kind of loving and safe family atmosphere in which God’s discipline and work in our lives can produce fruit, rather than the insecurity and fear which breeds in some churches. Examples are given of ways in which churches can fail badly in this regard and badly damage those who attend them. The key point is simply this: a good family provides both a loving and disciplined environment in which children can be trained to maturity and correct behaviour. Therefore, if a church, as a little local extended family of God gets this wrong, it is building on a foundation of quicksand and will never be able to properly accomplish what God desires for it.